Funnelling

I'm often interested in finding hidden meanings among ordinary things.  The concept of anger intrigued me earlier, so I started off reading about it in Psychology Today where it made a great deal of sense on many levels:  Anger is ultimately a way for humans to seek control over anxiety, other emotions, or other people.  We use it to protect ourselves from danger or dents to our pride.  It's one of our most dangerous emotions, however, for things to which it can lead, and is therefore best diminished from its onset.  Long-term or wide-spread anger is especially destructive, resulting in skirmishes, if not all-out wars.  There is anger in rage and anger in vulnerability, and in either situation, it can be funneled and filtered, or it can be absorbed and magnified.  It's best when funnelled it out through more creative means that positively benefit others.  This can be most effectively accomplished through writing, a cleverly planned antidote for anything from boss's rant to large-scale rage.  Depending on relevance and tone, the writing may in turn be conveyed through a popular medium.  When anger is effectively diffused through the written word, positive solutions have the best chance of occurring.  Focusing on the root core of anger in any given situation and then writing about it's resolution is ultimately healing, so long as it evolves to using strong, appealing language.  Just as an angry person seldom can stay mad at someone who is loving to him or her, a positively planned rebuttal to any argument yields favorable solutions.   Not taking the time to plan a reaction to a particularly incendiary issue, initially warrants an explosive response -- instinctive and animalistic.  I remember being angry for a long time about a person in my family with an explosive temper.  Everyone knew this person's temper; they had their own stories, but when it kept affecting me personally, I was frustrated with my inability to cure it or even to sink to it's level, being angry at anger, and also at a lack of family justice.  Still, an incendiary problem needs a cool solution, and this is a battle.  It takes time and effort.  I wrote my diatribe out in sonnets and some free-form, writing at odd, late hours, unable to sleep as the anxiety of reasoning after-effects persisted, and so taking the relief by placing the exact words in the right places until finally grasping a clean feeling of resolution.  Seeing the solution in written form before me would quell my own lingering resentment.  It was consistently a good feeling to see that I didn't have to yell back, even as my calm reasoning was, several times, rudely disregarded in each agonizing instance.  I remained affronted, even after running, cooking, eating, until I wrote it out, and I felt full.  Eventually, I found myself in an especially challenging altercation with the same family member, and had an arsenal of precisely crafted rebuttals that caused a couple of rare and thoughtful quiet times for my opponent.  I don't know that my advice will ever be heeded, but I know I can break rage barriers at mock two using a few positive aphorisms, so I'm onto something.  I've had all of my toes stepped upon, as the worst words were spit into my face, feeling angry as the devil at the unimaginable word decorating each unprovoked delivery, and it was tough every time to slide it off slowly.  Taking deep breaths helped when biting my tongue was painful.  It takes incredible strength when the aftermaths of the especially angry continually procreate anger and resentment in others.  Pondering the insults exchanged in one appalling outburst can wreak havoc over time.  Writing out solutions lends finality and peace, diffusing the components of the negative emotion and disallowing its remnants to persist.  Anger is a non-sensical emotion to nourish, and should be filtered through carefully crafted wording with a pencil callousing the writing fingers.